Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Darkness and Light, Revisited

I will love the light for it shows me the way.
Yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
~Og Mandino

It is hard not to be hopeful when you've "seen the light"--when you have learned that the darkest moments illuminate.

I've covered it before on this blog, how we came through the darkness of early diagnosis into the light...Bridget's Light, Alina's Hope...

When Bridget was born and I was in the phase of trying to figure it all out, I was unsure of many things. I felt off-balance, and a little scared. I spent the first 24 hours after Bridget's birth without her. She needed surgery and was taken to another hospital. I don't like thinking about that first day, there was so much sadness.

But an epiphany came despite the darkness--or more likely, because of it. I can tell you the moment it all started to swing, the moment I felt awe instead of fear about our new life with Bridget. She was sleeping peacefully, recovering from her surgery. Chris and I were standing together, studying her, completely absorbed in her and in that moment. We'd been so quiet following her birth, not knowing how to console each other or how to sort it all out. I've said it before, how it occurred to us at the same time, how we looked at each other and smiled. We had the same realization at the same time:  Bridget is ours, she is whole and she is perfect. There are no mistakes, we are all perfectly made.

We are all perfect and imperfect at the same time. Bridget has given us the gift of seeing both our own potential and our own limits, and of seeing people without distinction by side-stepping artificial boundaries which separate and belittle. She's given us a lesson in reverence, in understanding that there is something greater while celebrating the life that is ours.


  1. love, LOVE, this post!...your last paragraph in particular got me choked up, it is all so very, very true!

  2. How sweet. Perfection and imperfection -- a perfectly imperfect way to think of it.

  3. I love your way with words - they so eloquently describe what I think many parents of children who have special needs feel. Your words resonate with me and I thank you for them!

  4. Love it and agree wholeheartedly.