tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post2467397301882513499..comments2023-09-05T05:16:26.203-04:00Comments on Living in the Light: Miss CongenialityLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17347490959410472081noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-64536527422180082432009-06-02T20:00:11.895-04:002009-06-02T20:00:11.895-04:00I loved this post... and just posted about a recen...I loved this post... and just posted about a recent issue I had related to stereotypes. It's something we all have to think about. <br /><br />By the way, I heard about downtownds from your site, so thank you for that! And I've linked to your blog from mine - hope that's ok!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16749431284192436424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-74857084948729830822009-05-31T13:00:28.544-04:002009-05-31T13:00:28.544-04:00Stereotypes are not good in general...whether your...Stereotypes are not good in general...whether your child exemplifies the stereotype or not. Everyone has dimension as well as unique personality traits and skills. That includes people with Ds. Our goal should be to look at each person as an *individual*. Anything else is unrealistic and a short sell for all involved.<br /><br />On a side note, we are aware that we may need to work with Bridget on personal space and safety issues with regard to touch and affection. Right now, she's only two, and we are right beside her at all times. I wouldn't encourage any of my children to keep a distance from others at this age...but we are aware that her openness might also make her vulnerable at some point.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17347490959410472081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-59564671801953661082009-05-30T17:28:13.910-04:002009-05-30T17:28:13.910-04:00Welllll my teen is not a lo0ve bug--- doesn't fit ...Welllll my teen is not a lo0ve bug--- doesn't fit the stereotype at all... and the stereotype bugs me a lot.<br /> However, I think it important to mention that you will need to work on teaching her limits of touch. It is dangerous not to.....rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-79502592806727026392009-05-30T17:04:15.447-04:002009-05-30T17:04:15.447-04:00I really, truly couldn't have said it better. I t...I really, truly couldn't have said it better. I think a lot about what's so wrong with "being happy" if it weren't because people are putting our kids in a "box" -- happiness is so illusive to many of us. Like Bridget, happiness comes so naturally to Lucas and it just makes my heart sing...you're so right, it's a gift. I read your blog all the time, thank you for your always insightful take on things.Momma2Beanhttp://www.mundobean.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-55150305884447047972009-05-29T09:55:19.375-04:002009-05-29T09:55:19.375-04:00This is Joyce. Beautifully written. Truthfully, ...This is Joyce. Beautifully written. Truthfully, I have never had a problem with the "happy" stereotype. Watching my friends struggle with the drama of their teenage girls I have often been thankful for the "happy" in Sarah.My name is Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12532019900834158013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-75516127091541636062009-05-29T09:16:48.360-04:002009-05-29T09:16:48.360-04:00"Whether it is somehow linked to the extra chromos..."Whether it is somehow linked to the extra chromosome or not, this one thing--the innate understanding of how to be happy and make others happy--it is a gift". Totally agree with you. :)~KC:https://www.blogger.com/profile/03349161257792811578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-10122431912297697442009-05-29T08:53:30.649-04:002009-05-29T08:53:30.649-04:00I have a lot of friends who've no prior stereotype...I have a lot of friends who've no prior stereotypes or experiences with people with DS and they've always remarked about what a love bug my child is. We had to be very attentive to teaching her to shake hands rather than hug and "hands to self" became a mantra for a few years. Not to discourage her from hugging people she knew but to teach her about personal boundaries that make people comfortable or uncomfortable- like personal space.She's done well, with some outbreaks, learning. However, we still have friends and people who she knows that we might not, that come up and ask specifically for one of Kayli's therapeutic hugs.<br />I just disregard the generalizations- all I know is my child is full of a joy that many never have! As for the devilishness- 2 is 2, testing , testing to see what reaction she can get!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-42738169272814872982009-05-29T08:22:56.814-04:002009-05-29T08:22:56.814-04:00Yes, to be two! It's an interesting age for sure....Yes, to be two! It's an interesting age for sure. NEver a dull moment. And I agree about the stereotype - happiness is not a bad one to have!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17574042485403799310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-24914575365495289272009-05-29T02:13:04.292-04:002009-05-29T02:13:04.292-04:00I can just picture her stealing the show :-) Too ...I can just picture her stealing the show :-) Too cute!<br /><br />John Michael is starting to show his spirited side as well (biting, coughing, yelling). He certainly keeps me on my toes!Monica Crumleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11292679754594755040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7576310937763715660.post-45711913339890604992009-05-28T22:19:01.998-04:002009-05-28T22:19:01.998-04:00LOL! I bet everyone went home talking about that c...LOL! I bet everyone went home talking about that cute little girl!!!! Oh, and when you decide to sell her, PLEASE let me have the first bid!!!! :)Mommy to those Special Kshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07321242319840791482noreply@blogger.com